My friend's maid of honor (her sis) asked me to contribute $200 to the bridal shower prep. She said that it'd be covering appetizers, paper products, & I forget what else she said. My friend has 5 bridesmaids including her maid of honor so I'm having trouble understanding why she'd need like $1000 for appetizers & napkins.
I was in my cousin's wedding a while back & all I was responsible for was my dress, shoes, hair, & nails. I brought nothing other than a gift to her bridal shower. I'm gonna be in my other cousin's wedding in July & she's not asking me for anything like this. For this wedding in June, my dress costs $230, & I haven't even figured out how much I'm gonna spend on the other stuff that I'll need.
I told my other friend about it & she thinks that's an excessive amount. She also said that the maid of honor's supposed to be responsible for the bridal shower expenses. My coworkers C/S that. I can see how the maid of honor may be strapped for cash since she has 5 kids --- but that ain't my problem.
It sounds like they're really tryna go all out but the wedding reception's gonna be held at a hall which is more affordable than say a banquet hall or a hotel due to the bride & groom's expenses. Simple wedding, somewhat expensive bridal shower, ummm...no.
Ladies, I'd like your input please.
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My friend's maid of honor (her sis) asked me to contribute $200 to the bridal shower prep. She said that it'd be covering appetizers, paper products, & I forget what else she said. My friend has 5 bridesmaids including her maid of honor so I'm having trouble understanding why she'd need like $1000 for appetizers & napkins.
I was in my cousin's wedding a while back & all I was responsible for was my dress, shoes, hair, & nails. I brought nothing other than a gift to her bridal shower. I'm gonna be in my other cousin's wedding in July & she's not asking me for anything like this. For this wedding in June, my dress costs $230, & I haven't even figured out how much I'm gonna spend on the other stuff that I'll need.
I told my other friend about it & she thinks that's an excessive amount. She also said that the maid of honor's supposed to be responsible for the bridal shower expenses. My coworkers C/S that. I can see how the maid of honor may be strapped for cash since she has 5 kids --- but that ain't my problem.
It sounds like they're really tryna go all out but the wedding reception's gonna be held at a hall which is more affordable than say a banquet hall or a hotel due to the bride & groom's expenses. Simple wedding, somewhat expensive bridal shower, ummm...no.
Ladies, I'd like your input please.
im on the phone but from what i read ...thats alot of money....for her to be asking
...ummmmm.....girl...
u betta tell her ass to sit down...and stop trying to tax ya'll for silly expenses
.....i hate when broads wanna go over and beyond budget means for weddings and showers.....
tell her she really needs to work out a budget that is affordable
LOL! Most def I'm calling her tonight cuz that's ridiculous.
I mean, damn. What kinda appetizers they want? Caviar? What kind of paper they using? We are working class & keep it simple. Sh#t, LOL!
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Are you sure they're asking the other bridesmaids to contribute this amount? Maybe she means they need $200 total from the bridesmaids?
You got me checking a 3rd time, LOL!
Replayed the message & yes, that girl said "It's gonna be 200 per girl & you can bring something else cuz we're gonna be making the food." You want me shelling out dough & slaving in the kitchen?! F#ck outta here.
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LOL! Most def I'm calling her tonight cuz that's ridiculous.
I mean, damn. What kinda appetizers they want? Caviar? What kind of paper they using? We are working class & keep it simple. Sh#t, LOL!
you should ask her for specifics...i mean no general "appetizers" i mean for 1000 my miyagi better be serving the sushi...ask her exactly what appetizers and add up the costs..if she doesnt wanna take that road just tell her you would do anything for the bride but that amount is a lil unreasonable.
You got me checking a 3rd time, LOL!
Replayed the message & yes, that girl said "It's gonna be 200 per girl & you can bring something else cuz we're gonna be making the food." You want me shelling out dough & slaving in the kitchen?! F#ck outta here.
Yea, they are definitely tripping. I throw parties/showers all the time, so I'm curious to see how this thing turn out.
You got me checking a 3rd time, LOL!
Replayed the message & yes, that girl said "It's gonna be 200 per girl & you can bring something else cuz we're gonna be making the food." You want me shelling out dough & slaving in the kitchen?! F#ck outta here.
Oh yea and don't forget you'll probably be expected to bring a gift, too.
you should ask her for specifics...i mean no general "appetizers" i mean for 1000 my miyagi better be serving the sushi...ask her exactly what appetizers and add up the costs..if she doesnt wanna take that road just tell her you would do anything for the bride but that amount is a lil unreasonable.
I'm definitely gonna ask her. The only thing is it's them (3 sisters & a cousin) vs. me (friend) so I'm wondering how this is gonna turn out.
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Oh yea and don't forget you'll probably be expected to bring a gift, too.
Yeah, I know. My other coworker said that my gift better be somewhere in that amount of money, LOL!
Another coworker said that she was in her friend's bridal party as a coordinator & that she worked alongside the maid of honor & the matron & that they're expeneses amounted to $800 in total & that the bridesmaids weren't responsible for anything outside of getting their dresses & etc. She said that since I turned my friend's offer to be her 2nd maid of honor, that I'll probably have to give them $100. I'm going for $75.
I'll update ya'll cuz I'm calling her tonight.
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I'm definitely gonna ask her. The only thing is it's them (3 sisters & a cousin) vs. me (friend) so I'm wondering how this is gonna turn out.
Yeah, I know. My other coworker said that my gift better be somewhere in that amount of money, LOL!
Another coworker said that she was in her friend's bridal party as a coordinator & that she worked alongside the maid of honor & the matron & that they're expeneses amounted to $800 in total & that the bridesmaids weren't responsible for anything outside of getting their dresses & etc. She said that since I turned my friend's offer to be her 2nd maid of honor, that I'll probably have to give them $100. I'm going for $75.
I'll update ya'll cuz I'm calling her tonight.
please let us know. if i have a shower i dont expect anyone to chip in for anything.
Let me get this straight. You're one of the bridesmaids and the Maid of Honor is asking each bridesmaid to give and extra $200 outside of the money you have to pay for your dress and other stuff???
This is a hustle! The maid of honor is responsible for paying for these things and she wants to take her cost and split it amongst the bridesmaids. She is hustling ya値l! See how it works normally, is the Bride will pay for the Maid of Honor痴 dress and then she covers the Bachorlette party and stuff like that. She is taking her cost and splitting it with ya値l. NOT FARE! Tell her ya値l bring the napkins and cups to help out, but $200 is CRAZY!
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Let me get this straight. You're one of the bridesmaids and the Maid of Honor is asking each bridesmaid to give and extra $200 outside of the money you have to pay for your dress and other stuff???
This is a hustle! The maid of honor is responsible for paying for these things and she wants to take her cost and split it amongst the bridesmaids. She is hustling ya値l! See how it works normally, is the Bride will pay for the Maid of Honor痴 dress and then she covers the Bachorlette party and stuff like that. She is taking her cost and splitting it with ya値l. NOT FARE! Tell her ya値l bring the napkins and cups to help out, but $200 is CRAZY!
My coworker (coordinated her friend's wedding) said the same thing. She was like "Well how much is she paying if ya'll are paying $200? Sounds like she's tryna make ya'll pay for her expenses."
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The reason why it's $200 a piece is cuz it costs $500 to rent a hall for the bridal shower. I'm wondering how many people are comng to this cuz a shower is supposed to be intimate. She said that the bridesmaids' are to chip in for $125 each towards the hall rental; her share's not included in cuz it woulda been $100 a piece. I'm not feeling that.
I'm gonna only pay her $100. I told her that I'm going to be in my cousin's wedding the next month (true story) & that I couldn't afford to put in that much. I'll still bring food. I know they'll be talking sh#t about me & that's fine so long as I don't pay more than my max
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cuz i cant say wtf i really wanna say right here!
You want me shelling out dough & slaving in the kitchen?! F#ck outta here.
