a question for all of you..

[7:30femmefatale]

i'm posing this moreso to the people in here who adhere to very rigid diets when cycling, cutting, bulking, etc etc.. because i know that a lot of what's involved in that = very specific products, foods, portions/weights... but also to everyone else who really is careful about what they eat in some way.. whether it's a vegan lifestyle.. no/low carb... whatever.

do you ever face issues when it comes to eating with your sig other, wife, husband, girlfriend, etc.. or if you live with your parents/family.. i know a couple of people who have kinda serious issues when their sig other is following a strict diet and only the 1 party is following it. they face things like feelings of resentment, "they think they're better/healthier/thinner/stronger than i am".. or "we can't even go out to eat anymore because you won't/can't eat anything on the menu".. i dunno, i just see it becoming a pretty big divider or point of contention with some people.. just wondering if any of you faced those issues and if so, how you dealt with them?

[I_Spits_Da_Truth]

i'm posing this moreso to the people in here who adhere to very rigid diets when cycling, cutting, bulking, etc etc.. because i know that a lot of what's involved in that = very specific products, foods, portions/weights... but also to everyone else who really is careful about what they eat in some way.. whether it's a vegan lifestyle.. no/low carb... whatever.
do you ever face issues when it comes to eating with your sig other, wife, husband, girlfriend, etc.. or if you live with your parents/family.. i know a couple of people who have kinda serious issues when their sig other is following a strict diet and only the 1 party is following it. they face things like feelings of resentment, "they think they're better/healthier/thinner/stronger than i am".. or "we can't even go out to eat anymore because you won't/can't eat anything on the menu".. i dunno, i just see it becoming a pretty big divider or point of contention with some people.. just wondering if any of you faced those issues and if so, how you dealt with them?

I'm not currently facing those problems because I live alone and im single. Im also not afraid to go and eat at restaurants (eventhough it's rare because I usually don' have anyone to go there with). The only problems I've encountered in the past was with vegetarians. They are the ones who usually seem to have that ,"better than you" attitude and always trying to push their beliefs on you. I've also been told by other black folks that I "eat like a white man" and I just tell them that im trying to live a long healthy active life.

[7:30femmefatale]

I'm not currently facing those problems because I live alone and im single. Im also not afraid to go and eat at restaurants (eventhough it's rare because I usually don' have anyone to go there with). The only problems I've encountered in the past was with vegetarians. They are the ones who usually seem to have that ,"better than you" attitude and always trying to push their beliefs on you. I've also been told by other black folks that I "eat like a white man" and I just tell them that im trying to live a long healthy active life.
eat like a white man? what sort of foods are you eating when these comments are made? or is moreso the sort of foods you are not eating?

the reason i'm asking about this is because my best friend's man is a diehard builder/lifter.. he's in competitions and the whole 9.. and she's not at all diet-conscious and pretty much eats whatever she wants.. and they have issues a lot.. some because she is insecure, and some because honestly, the rigidity of dude's diet really does make just "normal" eating (or normal as many people know it) very trying. she called me last week mourning about how all he eats is a certain portion of grilled chicken, a certain kind/amt of rice, tuna, and like maybe 1 or 2 other things in addition to supplements.

thanks for replying.. and yeah, i know from personal experience that living alone makes it MUCH easier.

[Ariel Sharon]

she called me last week mourning about how all he eats is a certain portion of grilled chicken, a certain kind/amt of rice, tuna, and like maybe 1 or 2 other things in addition to supplements.
disgusting.
but I know what you're taking about it. the s/o fancies herself a chef exécutif and thanks to her my cholesterol levels and body fat %ages are very well versed in different cultures and their cuisines from all over the world.
i'm trying to work out a cheat day schedule with her and every nite she cooks i'll basically declare jihad against myself at the gym before hand. she gets to slave in the kitchen at hours end and I get to preserve my sexy. everyone wins

[Fendi_Mane]

I don't personall have any problems because I grew up in a healthy house hold. Imagine your mom telling the elementary school teachers telling them to not give you candy and packing healthful lunches for you everyday. With friends it's crazy because they have no idea how I eat. The only thing my friends know about my eating is I only drink water. But since I allow myself a cheat meal once a week and we usually go out on a Friday nights everything looks normal. But if we stop at the store and i'm hungry I have baked chips with my 40 oz and they have yet to notice. It's not like i'm hiding it but i'm not gonna be like look at my chips nicca.With that, most of the females I fukk with are pretty healthy eaters hoodrat or not.

[7:30femmefatale]

disgusting.
but I know what you're taking about it. the s/o fancies herself a chef exécutif and thanks to her my cholesterol levels and body fat %ages are very well versed in different cultures and their cuisines from all over the world.
i'm trying to work out a cheat day schedule with her and every nite she cooks i'll basically declare jihad against myself at the gym before hand. she gets to slave in the kitchen at hours end and I get to preserve my sexy. everyone wins
see that wouldn't be winning for me, because many times i would rather NOT punish myself at the gym by going twice as hard and allowing myself to eat crappier, i would rather just eat better and exercise normally.

if i had a sig other who cooked for me and loved cooking and was great at it.. i think i'd be kinda fuct. i could def see it being a point of contention. sticking to 1500 calories a day when trying to lose body fat pretty much means being careful ALL DAY.

my friend's situation is different anyway though, because she literally CANNOT COOK ANYTHING for her man during the times where he's preparing for competition, and he's more often than not preparing for something or other, and is on a rigid ass diet.

[7:30femmefatale]

I don't personall have any problems because I grew up in a healthy house hold. Imagine your mom telling the elementary school teachers telling them to not give you candy and packing healthful lunches for you everyday. With friends it's crazy because they have no idea how I eat. The only thing my friends know about my eating is I only drink water. But since I allow myself a cheat meal once a week and we usually go out on a Friday nights everything looks normal. But if we stop at the store and i'm hungry I have baked chips with my 40 oz and they have yet to notice. It's not like i'm hiding it but i'm not gonna be like look at my chips nicca.With that, most of the females I fukk with are pretty healthy eaters hoodrat or not.
i grew up in a very healthy household, too. my mom didn't let us have anything sugary and purchased all of our stuff from the farmer's market. rice was always brown and whole grain (i discovered white rice in like the 7th grade and came home accusing them of giving us nastier rice).. i didn't even know what kool-aid was until i was in the 7th or 8th grade (they didn't make sugar-free back then, not that my mom would have bought that anyway).

my friends all know about my eating habits, so i still get invites to go eat, especially during work hours for lunch when folks are going out, but nobody ever balks when i say no thanks..

[detroitwalt]

unless the one eating healthy is always on some "man, those fries are cooked in transfats and your ldl levels are gonna skyrocket. aww, that pop is flavored with HFCS i'm not fukkin with that" type steez tryin to push their lifestyle onto someone else, i don't really see a problem with it.

that being said, why can't she just cook enough for herself and not worry about what he's eating? that's less work for her.

[Ariel Sharon]

my friend's situation is different anyway though, because she literally CANNOT COOK ANYTHING for her man during the times where he's preparing for competition, and he's more often than not preparing for something or other, and is on a rigid ass diet.
I don't think any1 can help your friend, this is ol' boys profession and it sounds like he has fixated in his mind that if he tortures himself in the kitchen like he does in the weight room he'd reap more benefits in the competition. you know, suffering needlessly and behaving like a false martyr....or the 'jesus christ complex' as its more well known

you should introduce to the happy couple hummus (packed with protein and complex carbs) or biryani... stuff like that don't break any his rules and still taste orgasmic

[detroitwalt]

I don't think any1 can help your friend, this is ol' boys profession and it sounds like he has fixated in his mind that if he tortures himself in the kitchen like he does in the weight room he'd reap more benefits in the competition. you know, suffering needlessly and behaving like a false martyr....or the 'jesus christ complex' as its more well known

you should introduce to the happy couple hummus (packed with protein and complex carbs) or biryani... stuff like that don't break any his rules and still taste orgasmic


what's hummus or biryani? i never heard of either

[Ariel Sharon]

what's hummus or biryani? i never heard of either

hummus=whipped chick pea dish

biryani=Arab/Desi cuisine made up of rice, yogurt, meat/veggies and spices.

you should look up the recipes. good stuff

[Seven One Three]

I've also been told by other black folks that I "eat like a white man".
Oh my god...LMAO!!! I cant even front, thats funny as hell.

what you should have done is bust out the front double bi pose, and been like "*****, i'd rather EAT like a white man, than LOOK like a white man"

that woulda shut that ***** up quick :laugh:

-question - how old are the people who told you you eat like a white man? teens or adults? and are they male or female? are ostracized from the rest of the people when this happens? are you a loner?

Just curious...

:cool:

[Diggy_Dat_Niggy]

've also been told by other black folks that I "eat like a white man


lol, like the average white man doesn't eat fast food and drink beer. Over 50+% of the population eats like that. Better if they said you eat like some sort of small furry animal or rodent

[elle simple]

Being with a strict-eating athlete actually seems really difficult (this coming from an ovo-lacto pescatarian lol) but I think the partner/parents/friends just have to repect what the strict-eater is trying to do with their bodies and not sabotage that.

If you love the person, seems like you'd just have to compromise. Easier said than done at times... but you know? that's love.

[Priest Skool]

I adhere to a vegan diet for the most part, it's not been an issue because I don't make it one. If I'm going out to eat on someone else's invite I make sure I'm well fed beforehand in case there is nothing that fancies me. I stay organized. I never make anyone else feel like they have to accomodate my needs. If I ever do get caught in that predicament, I just simply tell them I'm not hungry and wait it out. People close to me know of my dietary choices, but, others I try to keep it a secret for fear of being judged.
But in the end I could care less ---- I eat to feel as great as I possibly can and this is much more important than someone's thoughts & feelings.

[djbriboogie]

im single, so it doesnt affect me too much either. and im also not in that strict of a plan. i usually give myself 1 day a week if something like that arises, so i dont have to be completely aloof is people are going out, or ordering out. but if i dont, i stick to it. for me, i have to go after things pretty cut-throat if i wanna be successful. its also kinda tough at work. workin in a bike shop, around a bunch of big guys, im one of the odd men out. theyll bust my balls about some of the things ill bring in, or if im not ordering from the same place they are, or even ordering something light for lunch. one called me a ***** the other day for getting a 6'' sub from subway :laugh: ive never gotten the "too good" thing tho. ive gotten the "oh mr classy" cause i said i was having swordfish for dinner or something...

if i were her, after fondeling myself for awhile, id see if there was some way to compromise, and atleast have my s/o go out while i eat for company...